Tips For Anxiety
Tuesday 17 February 2015
For those of you who may not know what anxiety is it feels like fear, everyone has some anxiety it's good for you keeps you alert and makes your body ready for action.
This becomes a problem when the feelings become too strong and when they carry on even in situations when it is not needed.
You may then because of this experience so of the more unpleasant physical symptoms. For example, you might have:
- a fast heart rate,
- a thumping heart (palpitations),
- feeling sick,
- shaking,
- sweating,
- dry mouth,
- chest pain,
- headaches,
- fast breathing.
Anxiety is something that can start at any age. It can be brought on by moments of extreme stress or can seem to occur for no apparent reason.
Every person experiences it differently, for everyone the trigger is different, for some people it can be crowds of people, others it can be confined spaces and for some it can happen for no apparent reason whatsoever.
For me my trigger seemed to be quiet situations and this was heightened even more when I knew I would be unable to leave the room/situation. One example for this being exams.
It got to the point on where it was affecting my decisions so much so that I didn't want to do things that would involve me being away from home for even one night, and if I did do something that involved this I would feel this immense sense of dread before and during the situation.
Over time I have found some things that help me when I feel like I'm about to have an anxiety attack.
I'm hoping that by sharing them with you it may help you cope as well if you are suffering from this. (Please note these are just the ones that have worked for me personally from what I have read on the internet)
Tips:
1. Breathe - it seems like the simplest thing in the world but when you are panicking it feels incredibly hard to do. By taking deep breaths in and out and focusing on your breathing you are taking your mind off what you are worrying about thus helping to calm your body.
2. Take a step back from the situation and think about what is truly bothering you. By over thinking the situation you are making it seem worse than it truly is by thinking it through with a clear head you can see where the issue lies.
3. If you want to do something do it. Just say yes! You may worry about it for months beforehand and then go and wonder what you were even worrying about to begin with. I have had many situations like this some examples being going to download festival or even staying over a friends house. By saying yes you are not letting the anxiety control you and what you do.
4. Focus on where you are feeling your anxiety this could be anywhere for example your throat or your stomach and notice that while it may not be getting better it is not getting any worse.
5. There are many herbal remedies you can take to help you calm down. My firm favourites are Kalms tablets I used to have one before any exam and for me they would work. I always keep a stash of these just in case I get a bout of anxiety.
6. Allow yourself to feel your emotions. Holding them in and not expressing them is only going to make it worse. If you need to cry cry, if you need to laugh then laugh. It is far better to express too much emotion rather than expressing none at all.
7. Express yourself - I do this through writing down my feelings. However even something as simple as talking with someone about how you're feeling can help you express yourself and make you feel as though a weight has been lifted. (If it does get really bad don't be afraid to seek help from someone like a counsellor!)
8. Change your thought patterns - by choosing to think more positively your whole outlook on life will change and it will show through your actions.
9. Finally remember you are not alone. This is a common problem it's just that it's not one that is regularly talked about. Mainly because it is not understood fully.
Now that my anxiety has lessened I am finding that more and more people I know seem to know someone suffering from this, and they are in the same boat that I was in to begin with. They don't know what they can do, the doctors are either unhelpful or they just give out antidepressants as if that is a cure and not just a prevention till a later date.
It is something that can be overcome without drugs I used to have a fear of quiet spaces and now I work in a library which is quite possibly one of the quietest places you can visit.
I am hoping that a few people out there who are suffering and feel lost will read this and find that it gives them some comfort and may even help them on the path to overcoming their anxiety.
If anyone wants to leave comments be it about your own experience or just a general comment please feel free to do so.
Thankful
Sunday 15 February 2015
Its been a week of catching up on TV shows and reading. The TV show in question being Desperate Housewives and the reading being Girl Online by Zoe Sugg.
I also went to the Sea Life Centre in Birmingham - haven't been there in years.
Had such a fab time it definitely brought out the inner child in me I think I was more excited than some of the children that were going round. - (there are some photos on my Instagram if anyone is interested @rebeccalaura02 )
When not having my catch up sesh I've spent most of this week with family and friends and its made me feel so grateful for the little things the ones that we all take for granted.
I think people always focus on what they don't have rather than what they do. So this week I'm going to think of three things that I'm thankful for each day.
Today my three things are:
1. Good friends and family
2. Duvet days
3. A good cup of tea - (the simple things)
So leave a comment below let me know the three things that you are grateful for or that makes you happy at the moment.
Valentines Creative Writing
Saturday 14 February 2015
My Top Ten Books To Read
Saturday 7 February 2015
I am pretty much a reading addict and I work in a library so narrowing this down is going to be HARD!
10. Harry Potter and The Goblet of Fire - JK Rowling
'When the Quidditch World Cup is disrupted by Voldemort's rampaging supporters and the terrifying Dark Mark is resurrected, it is obvious to Harry that, far from failing, Voldemort is getting stronger. The ultimate symbol to the magic world of the evil Lord's return would be if the one and only survivor of his death curse, Harry Potter, could finally be beaten. So when Harry is entered for the Triwizard Tournament - a competition between three wizarding schools to find the ultimate magician - he knows that rather than win it, he just has to get through the trials alive.'
Out of all the Harry Potter series this one was my favourite having action right from the start. I found seeing how they were all going to get through the challenge and the different challenges themselves interesting. I also enjoyed that they introduced characters from different schools in the magical world. If you haven't read any of the Harry Potter books where have you been? They are must reads!
More Creative Writing
Wednesday 4 February 2015
Short story:
Everybody loved Kit Bowman.
From his striking good looks to his even more striking personality. It is not often someone so beautiful and popular could be so nice.
His piercing blue eyes and his dazzlingly white smile made even the harshest of people admirers.
Everything came easy for Kit: girlfriends, friends, jobs. Everything he went after he got.
He was the towns golden boy and not just because of his shining hair.
Then the accident happened.
From then on everybody feared Kit Bowman.
His good looks so striking they seemed almost unnatural. His blue eyes so piercing just a look made you go cold, his smile so wide, his teeth so sinister and sharp.
Now nothing came easy for Kit Bowman except loosing everything he'd built.
No longer the towns golden boy, his hair no longer shined.
Now the town feared him.
After all once you are dead you shouldn't wake up
A Moment Of Creative Writing
Tuesday 3 February 2015
Ring My Bella Perfume Review
Saturday 31 January 2015
This is going to be the first of many reviews!
In the week I was going round the Benefit counter when I came across their 'Crescent Row' fragrance range. I'm rather picky about perfumes but in this range there seems to be a scent to suit everyone. At only £29.50 a bottle it is rather cheap for a fragrance.
I got the Ring My Bella fragrance.
The whole range comes in these cute kitschy boxes each with different stylings.
The box describes the perfume as:
'She flutters and flounces lace, satin and more. Her spirit so sexy Bella's shop you'll adore. Slip sweetly into a lush, juicy fling for a frill-seeking time "go on and ring". "
As for the smell of the fragrance itself:
Top notes: pink rose petals, soft lily, summer daisy
Middle notes: Egyptian jasmine, creamy peony
Bottom notes: white patchouli, vanilla tincture, white musk
I absolutely love this fragrance!! Its so sweet, not overpowering and lasts all day!
My only negative would be the size of the bottle, it's only 30ml so if you happened to use it every day it would run out quickly.
But that is the only negative I can think of!
Other than that I think this would be a great gift either to yourself or to friends or family. I can't wait to try out the different ones in the range!
Some of my favourite things
Sunday 25 January 2015
As I'm sat here on a Sunday evening just browsing on the internet aimlessly, half heartedly watching Desperate Housewives and stuffing my face with galaxy chocolate I decided to share with you some of my favourite things:
I'm going to start with the obvious I'm a massive fan of films and TV series. I'm the kind of person who can get through a series a day. Anything from Buffy the vampire slayer to Dawson's Creek.
A passion of mine is reading my nan used to take me to the library with her from a very young age. I used to read the point horror series when I was younger and have managed to collect practically all of them.
I'm also a massive tea addict! I think I would have withdrawal symptoms without it.
White chocolate is by far the best type of chocolate! In any shape or form an example being hot chocolate!
I'm a massive fan of food I think most of the photos on my phone are food related. I am a big fan of Chinese takeaways and could eat a whole one of those tubs to myself.
When I do have ice cream Ben and Jerry's is the only option (either Baked Alaska or Minter Wonderland).
I'm addicted to Yankee Candles at the moment especially the fresh smelling ones like baby powder. There's nothing more relaxing than sitting in with a cosy blanket a cup of tea and having a nice smelling candle lit.
I'm also addicted to eye shadows I have at least 4 palettes with the Elf cool edition being my favourite.
I'm a huge family person and feel that the holidays are always times for family no matter what!
Going out for meals and drinks is always better than clubbing!!
In the comments below share with me some of your favourite things or hobbies the more random the better!
A Month of Firsts
Saturday 24 January 2015
This month has been one with many firsts for me.
- Paying off my first holiday to the USA ✈
- Having to do a visa for the first time.
- Learning how to do new jobs at work
- Going Water Zorbing
I feel like this year is going to be one of change, one of taking more risks, experiencing new things and taking risks that I wouldn't normally.
Do you ever feel like you worry about other people too much? That you spend most of your time trying to please others than doing things that are the best for you.
This year is going to be different its going to be about new experiences, making the most of every situation - using this to grow as a person.
To start of this year of new experiences today I went water zorbing. This is where you are in a huge inflatable ball on some water - in this case it was a lake. You then have to attempt to stand and move the ball around pretty much resulting in you falling over ALOT.
It is hilarious and good fun for friends or couples to do together.
This should be the year that you go out, do something you wouldn't normally, take a risk you don't know what it may lead to.
My Bucket List of Places to See:
Sunday 11 January 2015
Deciding you want to travel isn't the hardest part. Getting there is harder.
Anyone can pick a few places to go and never have the intention of sorting out the actual details.
So where does the motivation come from? That motivation that makes you save rather than splurging or going out constantly like the rest of the people our age.
For me it's the drive to see more, do more, to know that my money is going towards more than just some drunken nights out every week.
There's stuff you can only learn by seeing things in person rather than through a screen.
My Bucket List of Places to see:
- New York
- Reykjavik Iceland (Northern Lights)
- China (great wall of China)
- Alaska
-New Orleans
- Hawaii
- Tokyo Japan
First stop on my travelling list will be California USA where I will be going on a 16 day guided tour seeing the highlights.
During this I will be keeping a diary and taking many pictures ready to blog ☺
Why I Love No 7!
Friday 9 January 2015
I've had a revelation this week!
The No 7 vouchers are back again at boots 5 pound off skincare and 3 pound off make up.
Being the kind of person prone to having bad skin due to breakouts I have tried so many skin care products its unbelievable! Creams, exfoliators, tea tree oils all claiming to do the same thing. After getting no joy out of these I opted to just cover with foundation which of course just causes a vicious cycle and makes the problem worse.
Then I got one of these vouchers the other day and was having a mooch around the No 7 counter.
From here I ended up getting:
- No 7 Soft and Soothed Gentle Toner
- No 7 Beautiful Skin Blemish Defence Serum
I didn't really hold much hope as I haven't really heard much about serums.
I soon changed my mind within a day of use it had helped my skin no end blemishes reduced and my skin just generally felt fresher than it had done in a while.
I shall definitely be repurchasing!!! For anyone who has troublesome skin this is the skincare range you need!!!
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